Over the past few years, I’ve come to understand what it truly means to be an introvert.
Not shy necessarily, but quiet.
Not timid, but thoughtful.
And not anti-social, but selectively social.
I’ve also seen how the outside world (you know, the one not in my mind) often sees introverts for what they aren’t. We become easily misunderstood and often underappreciated and underestimated.
And if you’re an introvert, you’ve probably bought into those stereotypes on more than one occasion, believing you’re less than your extroverted counterparts.
I know I have.
But when we start believing that we don’t measure up, we lose sight of who we truly are and the amazing capabilities and talents that we inherently possess as quiet souls.
I want that magic back, and I’m here to help you rekindle yours, too. Because you deserve it.
If society has left you feeling inadequate and like an outcast…
If you’re unsure how to make your introverted tendencies work for you and not against you…
Or if you’re just ready to reclaim what makes you YOU and to stop doubting your worth as an individual…
I’m right there with you, girl.
10 Positive Affirmations for Introverted Women
In a world that seems to be made exclusively for extroverts, we offer something unique. A new perspective and way of doing things.
A different way of seeing problems…and a new approach to finding solutions.
Don’t continue to doubt yourself and what you bring to the table. Instead, embrace your personality type and grow stronger in the knowledge that who you are today is what is needed in this world.
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I hope these positive affirmations make your proud to be an introvert and help you understand how amazing you truly are.
1 | My voice deserves to be heard.
You know the phrase “the squeaky wheel gets the grease”? Although it may seem like the world has been specifically engineered to cater to extroverts, it’s really only because they tend to be louder and more assertive about their needs and wants.
Well, we can do that, too. You can do that.
Speak up for what you want without fear that others are judging you. Maybe they are, maybe they aren’t. That’s of no concern to you.
Just keep doing you because you have beautiful ideas, amazing suggestions, and thought-provoking opinions that are dying to be let out into the world.
Related post: 7 Things Introverts Are Tired of Hearing
2 | I owe it to myself to not rest on my weaknesses.
Every personality type has both strengths and weaknesses. We’re human after all, and none of use are perfect.
As an introvert, your weakness may be that you second-guess yourself too often. Or maybe you feel that you’re too quiet, too withdrawn. Maybe you’re uncomfortable to voice your opinion because you don’t want it to be misconstrued or you dread being drowned out by another confident, louder voice from someone else.
Resist becoming too comfortable in what could be the weaker tendencies of introversion; that can’t be your resting place.
It’s important that you acknowledge a weakness, sure. But then take the time to learn how to either overcome it or manipulate that weakness into something that you can make work for you, not against you.
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3 | My thoughts and feelings matter, and I should communicate them often and clearly.
Just because you’re quiet doesn’t mean you should be unheard. What you’re feeling and thinking matters, even if you think it doesn’t.
Trust me, it does. And your close relationships will flourish if you become comfortable with the habit of consistently speaking about how you’re feeling or what you’re needing from others.
Extroverts aren’t the only ones who have the right to do this. This is necessary for every individual. We’re human, and humans were designed to form relationships and fellowship with others.
Don’t deny this crucial part of your existence by buying into the belief that your needs/thoughts/wants aren’t important.
Start where it feels the most natural. If you’re not used to talking about how your day went with your parents, your best friend, or your significant other, start there. If you’re willing to start opening up and communicating about the most mundane aspects of your day, you’ll slowly find yourself talking about the deeper topics that matter the most to you in your life. Focus on the daily steps of open communication, not the end result. If you’re consistent with your efforts to open up more, the results will come.
4 | I am more than my personality.
You’re so much more than just a label. You’re not only an “INTJ” or an “ISFP” or the myriad other introvert personality types that exist. Of course, it’s always interesting to learn more about your personality, but don’t box yourself in by thinking you only have to be that one thing.
While I’m all for figuring out where you fit in, finding a tribe, and feeling a sense of belonging, I also feel like we sometimes find the box we fit in, check that box, and then…are afraid to grow and move out of that box.
Have you ever felt this way?
It feels good when you find a place where you “fit in” and it’s fun to belong to a certain group. But we take this mindset too far at times. We box ourselves into narrow definitions of who we are, of our personalities. And as I’m sure you know by now, no human being fits into a set stereotype. We’re all of us unique individuals with detailed nuances that can’t be summed up into a tidy little package labeled “introvert” or “extrovert” or “millennial” or “single mom.”
I’m an introvert, but that’s not all I am. I don’t always fit into the “introvert” box. Sometimes, I’m very extroverted. Sometimes, I love being the life of the party. At times, I probably don’t look very introverted at all.
And yet, I’m running a blog geared toward introverts exclusively, talking about introverted things and what not.
And that’s okay. You know why?
Because I refuse to be confined to a narrow space and definition for myself. I won’t be defined by one term or personality characteristic. I’m a whole being with different sides to myself, and so are you.
Don’t neglect to explore those different aspects of yourself because you’re afraid to step out of the box you or society has placed you in.
5 | I deserve to be a good steward of my relational energy.
What a lot of people don’t understand about introverts is that we love people. We love people just as much as an extrovert does. We just prefer our people time in smaller doses. An introvert works like a battery. When we wake up, our battery is fully charged. Interacting with others throughout the day drains our battery. If we are social in a large group of people for an extended period of time, our relational energy—the full capacity of our “battery”—drains down even faster.
This isn’t a bad thing; it’s just the way we’re wired. Some introverts tend to be more outgoing and can mingle around in groups for longer periods without feeling depleted and tired. Others (like myself) don’t have as much relational energy to give out and so use it sparingly and only when necessary.
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Have you ever heard the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup”?
This is how your relational energy works, too. It’s okay if you can’t be in large groups for more than a few hours, but you need to know this and own this. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself consistently on the verge of overexerting and overextending yourself.
Don’t ignore these signs.
You’re your best YOU when you take note of what makes you click. When you’re at your best with yourself, you’re more likely to be at your best with others.
More resources for introverts:
- How to Confidently Network as an Introvert
- How to Unplug from Social Media as an Introvert
- 14 Ways Introverts Can Practice Self Care at Work
- Understanding Your Love Language as an Introvert
- 4 Epic Ways Introverts Can Improve Their Relationships
- The Ultimate Guide to Surviving the Holidays as an Introvert
6 | The way my mind works is a positive attribute, not a negative hindrance.
I’m about to get science-y for a hot second.
As it turns out, introverts relate to the world by taking in our surrounding “inward” first. In other words, our energy comes from within. We all have both introverted and extroverted traits, but according to Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung (I’m sure you’ve heard of him), we inherently prefer one personality type over the other. (source)
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Here are a few common characteristics of introverts:
- high concentration skills
- tendency to pause to consider before speaking or acting.
Introverts tend to focus on internal feelings rather than external or outside sources of stimulation.
Now of course, it’s how you perceive it and what you do with this information that matters. For example, you could view a tendency to be overly withdrawn as a roadblock to forming deeper relationships. Or, you could work on this personality trait and being more open with others while at the same time seeing it as an opportunity for some quiet “me time” and self care.
How can you make certain traits that you possess work in you favor?
7 | I’m not responsible for others’ responses, actions, or feelings.
As someone who used to be painfully shy and introverted, it was easy to get walked over by other people when I was younger. I would go along with whatever they said, did, or felt, even if it wasn’t the way I wanted to be or think.
But I don’t do that ish anymore. I realized that you can’t control what others are going to do or say, but you can control how you react to them.
I don’t react anymore. That might sound crazy to some people, but honestly the only reason why I don’t react anymore is because I’m lazy, haha. I literally don’t have the energy to devote to that anymore, so I stopped doing it.
And you know what? It’s easier than it sounds when you realize that what others do and say doesn’t always require a reaction or response from you. So next time, ask yourself: do I need to respond? What is necessary from me in this situation? Know what that is, and do that. Without guilt.
8 | I’m allowed to evolve and grow as a person.
Like I mentioned above, you don’t need to remain glued to the label of “introvert” and all the stereotypes that come with that blanket statement.
You can be quiet one day and a social butterfly the next.
You can thrive in a group and then prefer one-on-one time with your best friend.
Don’t feel like you’re “betraying” yourself or other introverts if you are wanting to break out of your shell. That’s a good place to be. It’s good to grow and shake off old behaviors and limiting mindsets that don’t serve you anymore. That is something you want to work toward, no run away from.
If you have identified with being an introvert (or an extrovert) for as long as you can remember, chances are good that you will be that way for the rest of your life. But that doesn’t mean that your habit and though patterns have to remain boxed in and never changing.
Naturally, we learn and grow constantly as people. You’re allowed this. It’s healthy, boo.
9 | I don’t need to make excuses for my personality.
I get it. Introverts are misunderstood a lot. Like, a lot a lot. But there are more of us than people realize—around 50% of the population is introverted.
So really, there’s no reason for others to not “get” us. They need to get with the program…not us. You better recognize.
When people don’t understand how you operate as an introvert, that’s alright. Just take some time to politely educate them or answer questions they might have. But under no circumstances are you obligated to make excuses for the way you are.
It may seem like extroverts are the “norm”, but that’s just simply not true. You have as much right to be who you are as anyone else.
10 | My quiet soul is my super power.
…and that’s a fact that no one can take away from you. The only key is to actually believe it about yourself.
There’s no shame in being quiet.
There’s no shame in being shy.
And no shame in being more withdrawn than others.
That can be your truth, and you can still be powerful, a force to be reckoned with. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
If other people doubt you, that’s okay, too. Their power comes from outside themselves; it comes from belittling others and trying to knock them down. People who attack your confidence or your self esteem are fully aware of your potential, even if you are not. But as introverts, we tend to be intrinsically motivated, and our strength comes from the inside. Don’t let what others think bother you—you have everything you need within.
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Practice saying these out loud to yourself or writing them down somewhere where you can read them over and over again every day. After all, what we speak finds its way into our minds and into our spirits. If you meditate on these often enough, you’ll find that all of sudden, you believe these things about yourself.
Let’s work on that together, okay?
Read this next: Confessions of an Introvert
No matter what society says of you as an introvert, remember this: you’re not broken. And you don’t need to fix yourself. You’re amazing, and you’re doing just fine.
How do you affirm who you are on the daily? What are some of your favorite positive affirmations? Leave a comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear from you. 🙂
I have a feeling we’re going to be good friends.