I’m back at it with the second part of my “Confessions of an Introvert” series! (Catch up on part 1 or part 3.) There tends to be a lot of misconceptions about us introverts, so hopefully these posts will help other personality types understand more of what goes on in the mind of an introvert and why we think and act the way we do.
As much as I love writing these posts, I think I love reading them even more. There’s just something about connecting with others and knowing exactly where they’re coming from that is comforting. If you feel inspired to write a post like this on your own blog, holla’ at your girl and let me know because I would love to read it. 🙂
As always, even if you don’t see yourself in all of these, I hope whatever your personality type is, that you love and enjoy being who you are to the fullest.
Confessions of an Introvert
1 | I’m a deep-feeler.
It’s not easy to be a human with a sensitive soul, a person who feels things a little too much and all at once. Words can stay with me for a long time.
It’s more than just words, though. It’s thoughts, emotions…and that state of being so completely overwhelmed in a situation. I can’t even describe it.
I overthink. And then I overthink about my overthinking. But even though feeling deeply can result in more hurt feelings and misunderstandings, it can also result in more breathtaking moments, more joy spilling over, and more overall appreciation for the beautiful things in life.
But finding that balance is hard.
2 | I love to create.
While I don’t consider myself to be super talented with a paintbrush, I have my artsy-fartsy moments. I’m obsessed with graphic and web design. I look through thousands of fonts on my down time…just for fun. I love to write. I’ve recently picked up photography (because it’s what all the cool kids are doin’.) I love interior design, even if I don’t have many opportunities to explore this hobby (but that’s what HGTV marathons are for, right?). I love makeup and fashion and discovering my own personal sense of style—I really enjoyed working on this collaboration with JORD Watches. And I believe presentation is everything.
Creating is my way of getting out my thoughts in design when I don’t know how to put my thoughts into words.Creating is a way of getting my thoughts into design when I don't know how to put them in words.Click To Tweet
3 | I work best alone.
…because group projects are my own form of personal torture.
WHO’S WITH ME? Show of hands??
I wouldn’t consider myself bossy exactly, but I am an only child, so maybe I’m just in denial.
But growing up, I was used to working by myself and playing by myself. If I wanted to make something happen, all I needed was…you guessed it…me, myself, and I.
I sometimes have a problem with micromanaging, but it’s only because I get a vision for how I want a project to look or turn out, and I don’t have the patience to explain my vision to someone else. I wouldn’t call myself a type-A personality (okay, so I am in denial), but I do have problems relinquishing control in certain situations.
If you’ve ever felt personally victimized by my project management style, oops. I come in peace. ✌🏼️
4 | I forgive but never forget.
I don’t enjoy conflict but I can air my grievances and talk a disagreement through with somebody just to get it over with and smoothed out. I don’t like having bad joo-joo with others and will do what it takes to move on as quickly as possible, even if I’m uncomfortable in the moment.
Because I’m introverted, I don’t give up my thoughts, feelings, and (most importantly) trust to just anyone. If you do me dirty, I can forgive you if we’re close.
But I won’t forget, likely ever. Trust is something that’s very important to me because I only have a small group of people who have it. If you make me regret giving it to you, our relationship won’t be the same again.
5 | Ice breaker games make me hyperventilate.
I don’t play charades. I make an excuse to hide in the bathroom until the game is over.
Don’t try to convince me to play Quelf with you. What sicko invented that game anyway? It’s inhumane.
For people who are introverted or have social anxiety (or both! Woooo.), cute little “get to know you” interactions are absolutely terrifying. It takes me a long time to open up to other people, so games that force that interaction make me commit the ultimate sin against my personality type: I’m made to give up parts of myself to people I don’t necessarily trust or want to get to know.
Read more posts about introverts:
- Understanding Your Love Language as an Introvert
- 4 Epic Ways Introverts Can Improve Their Relationships
- The Ultimate Guide to Surviving the Holidays as an Introvert
- Why Blogging is the Perfect Hobby for Introverts
- How to Be More Comfortable with Vulnerability
6 | I’m not always an active participant, but I love to be “in the mix.”
Just because I don’t always want to participate doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy watching other people have a good time.
I mentioned this in my how-to guide on surviving the holidays as an introvert. I adore being all up in a party or a group of people, commenting here and there, laughing at jokes and just generally being “in the mix” without needing to interact so much. For an introvert, sometimes all we want is to be in and around all the excitement. If you’re an extrovert, you may not believe me when I say this, but it’s true: I often have just as much fun watching people socialize (as opposed to me actually doing the socializing)—if I’m smack dab in the middle of all the hubub—so long as I can kick back and take it all in on my own terms.
I think a lot of times, people think I’m bored (or boring! yikes.) or not paying attention, when in reality, I’m enjoying listening and observing others quietly.
It gives me warm fuzzies just feeling a sense of inclusion in a group, even if I’m not always the one engaging.
7 | I suck at leaving voicemails.
As soon as I hear that “beep”, I become paralyzed with fear.
No, really. I’m not exaggerating.
I get tongue-tied. I can’t remember what I was going to say, and I can’t remember how a phone works. Then I start thinking:
What if I run out of time? Have they fixed that yet? Do you have to leave your message in a certain amount of time or can you ramble on forever? I’m never sure about this, so I start going a mile a minute.
The only thing is, I’m talking so fast that I can no longer remember what I was going to say. So, I start saying “um” a lot. Like, a lot a lot.
And let’s not even talk about setting up my personal voice mail. I gave up on that a long time ago.
I’m fine talking on the phone with friends (although I don’t like ordering take out…), but texting is definitely my preferred way of communication. There’s just something about the written word or…typed out emoji, you feel me?
8 | I create situations and conversations in my mind that will literally never happen.
Don’t you hate when you think of the perfect clapback to someone’s comment after the conversation is over?
Is that not the worst?
I like to think about that one argument I had with that one person and create a really snappy comeback that I’ll never have the chance to use…hours after the fact.
And while I may not know exactly what to say in the moment, you best believe I’ll create 9 different scenarios in my head of the exact same situation in which I’m witty, sassy, and a complete BOSS with the punch lines.
I have way more conversations in my head with myself than I do with anyone else.
9 | It takes time for me to process a situation.
Like Drake, I have the tendency to get stuck in my feelings and thoughts a little too often. When a situation hits too close to home, it takes time for me to figure out how exactly I’m feeling and to process everything fully.
During this time, I probably want to be left alone, but know that it doesn’t have anything to do with you. If you just let me be, I’ll come out of this with more clarity and understanding than I would have if I hadn’t taken the time to be by myself.
10 | I want to be alone, but I don’t want to be lonely.
There is a difference in wanting to be left alone or wanting to spend time by yourself…and being lonely. I’m a professional at having “me time”; I thrive off of it. But there have been times in the past where I was so lonely, I didn’t know what to do with myself or how to make it better.
As an introvert, I love spending time by myself. I love recharging my batteries. But that doesn’t mean I don’t also love being around people or that I don’t need to socialize. I just need to do it in a way that makes me feel safe and comfortable.I need to socialize in a way that makes me feel safe and comfortable.Click To Tweet
Aaaand that’s a wrap for part 2 of my “Confessions of an Introvert”—what did you think? I love spilling my secrets as an introverted chick, and I hope you find these posts relatable and funny! Click here to read part 3 of this series.
If you have any extroverted best friends like I do, you might want to share this with them!
Can you relate to any (or all) of these confessions? Leave a comment below—what are your confessions as an introvert? I’d LOVE to read yours, too!
Let’s get to know each other better.